What should one do if thinking about dating the same gender gives one extreme amounts of anxiety?
Sunday, February 28th, 2010 at
8:36 pm
Although it’s not the only thing in life that gives me a lot of anxiety, being gay is definitely up there.
I don’t know if there a lot of guys or gals in my shoes… how you do put up with it? I really hate anxiety.
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Oh I know what you feel. I’ve never dated but I know i’d be nervous about dating other guys. it must sound silly but there’s this lgbt group in my school and there were flyers on the walls inviting people to come visit and I was even embarrassed/nervous to look at the flyer, thinking someone might say something to me. imagine actually DATING another guy. I know i’ll get over it but…it’s just right now…ugh…
Being a long time married cross dresser, I can empathize with you 100%..That "first meeting" is always nerve wracking..
But once you’ve been chatting for a few minutes with each other, and relax a ton – all will be just fine and dandy..
And it all depends on what all you have in mind to do… There again, one you’ve "started into it" the nerves and all related things certainly leave quickly.. I can "vouch" for that…!!!
But let me say this, if you enjoy what you do / did, will become possibly "habit forming", so.. But the next time (s) around, the nerves and being nervous, are a thing (s) of the past.
Rachelle In High Heels
dating anxiety is universal.
the awkwardness of the first meeting.
Took me 6 months to work up enough nerve to go to my first gay men’s group. I was 35 at the time.
After I finally broke the ice so to speak. things started to get easier.
use the anxiety as a motivator. know to get rid of it you need to do something about it.
Try to determine what it is about dating people of the same gender that concerns you and then attempt to deal with that specific issue. Some people feel internalized guilt over being gay because they’ve been subjected to homophobic beliefs for most of their life, some people feel scared because they know the world isn’t entirely accepting of who they are… etc. etc.
Find out what is it that really worries you and address it head on. You may be able to deal with it and dismiss your anxiety, or you may simply have to acknowledge it as a possibility and attempt to move on with your life anyway. Either way you’ll feel more in control of the situation just by identifying your true feelings.
you must be depressed or ashamed of it. thats why.
you have to accept yourself.