Social Anxiety?
*Please take the time to read this, it would mean so much to me*
Alright, this has been eating away my life for the past 8 years. I dont know when it started, but all i know is that it has to end. This is the first time i have embraced this issue, its my first attempt to make this life-ruining sickness go away. Please, no negative comments unless there absolutely necessary. Im sick of living the way I have been but I dont know what to do. I consider myself a social retard. When I get in an area with many people, I just freak. I sweat, I get jittery, I freeze and I just dont know what to say. Ive been told that I come off as a snob when Im just to shy and scared to talk to people. Ive never really had friends, I do have some, but the simple relationships I have have taken many more years to form then they should have taken. I just dont know what to do. When Im one-on-one with somebody, im fine.
Im good with flirting with girls, just not getting the balls to go up to them infront of people, I just cant do social situations, no matter who it involves. I just, I cant handle this. My own family is starting to notice and I just dont know what to think or do. Theres nothing I can do about it, when im in a social situation, I just freeze up and sweat. My cousin is having a wedding soon, and im already dreading it, not cause i mind sitting by myself, being scared to talk to people… but because of the crap i know im gonna take from ppl for being a snob. Every second that im out of my house, i just got tired, sweaty, and jittery. I cant handle this. Ive been ignoring this issue for the past 8 years, dealing with the pain by just drowning in self-pitty. If anyone knows how this can be fixed, please, tell me.
srj? WTF DUDE? no, im not gay.. Ive had 4 girlfriends, all of which i did sexual things with, and i enjoyed all of it…. If u read the whole thing, ude know that im good with flirting with girls, and im alright with talking to be ppl if its just me and another person… Im talking about big, social situations.
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my prayer for you: "May the Peace of God that transcends all thought continue to guard your heart and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus."
If you can’t ask a girl out, you are probably a homosexual. Be true to yourself. No one will judge you. They didn’t for me at least. I found that my body is a sexual treasure that needs discovering and attention. Go slow at first or it will hurt, boyfriends are tricky. I like my men like I like my steak, brown, big, and juicy, but pink on the inside. Go hard, my young emerging homosexual friend. Just remember, swallow, don’t spit!!!
I had five girlfriends before I found out I was special. Let you true gay nature out. You will find your path.
i can understand i too used to have social phobia, (and yes people thought i was a snob too!!) i couldnt even go to school coz i was so scared of talking to other people. so i dropped out and got therapy, it was horrible and excruciating but finally after about six months or something i got better and all my anxities began to go down. its not something that can be cured over night but by slowly changing the way you think (which is causing the anxiety) you can eventually get rid of it. so i suggest you go see a counsellor and check this site out
http://www.social-anxiety-shyness-info.com/art/sad/social-anxiety-treatment.htm
…it sounds like you’re just shy to me…you need to stop putting pressure on yourself and force yourself to do things that build confidence…if its as bad as you say you might consider seeking help…and not necessarily psychiatric help…there are groups that have meetings to help others practice speaking in front of an audience and you might benefit from something like that…in time you’ll learn to relax and wonder what the big deal was all about…
Dude, sorry but you just need to fight it, no formula to get rid of it, just simple rude moral power.
And as for srj, LOL dude that gayman is a one funny guy! xD
See your doctor about taking some medication for anxiety. You do not need to live like this when medical break throughs have come so far in finding medications for general anxiety and social anxiety.
Once you are taking a med., a good book to read is Feel the Fear and do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers.
OK my little man-u asked for it…heres the truth:
Social anxiety is severe and REAL. I was diagnosed 5 years ago with chronic social anxiety (or acute social anxiety).
USUALLY, this can be traced back to having had someone SO important to you, misplace your trust-do something that left you unaware at the time of the long term effects. Having said that-ask yourself who and when did the biggest disappointment come in your life. If you can relate it–you can fix it, by confronting the issue head on.
HOWEVER, the longer you’ve dealt w/this the harder it is to break the habit. Xanex is WONDERFUL for ALL types of anxiety….ask your DR and do some research.
ALSO, you need to realize that you most likely have ANOTHER issue to deal with that you probably will need medication to balance out….either depression, insomnia, or a NUMBER of other things. USUALLY anxiety does not run alone.
Your needing to be more one on one is a direct reflection of some insecurities within YOU. No-one here can tell you exactly what it is stemming from.
Know this….if you do not get help-your condition WILL worse. I am not able to work, as I cant deal with public. I miss out on MANY MANY important things due to my severe social anxiety. The difference is your young–and can redirect your thought pattern. I am still trying to do this w/the help od medication which could take several years!!
Bottom line – talk to your parent or DR and explain exactly as you have here within…they will hook you up with the safest method for overcoming this fretfull stigma!!
Good luck hun – Im here, if you need extra or "one on one" support