How to spot a girl with borderline personality disorder?
Wednesday, August 25th, 2010 at
1:36 pm
I’m dating alot of girls now and some girls I just find overly emotional and fiery. I want to know if they have anything wrong with them. A friend of mine mentioned some girls as having "borderline personality disorder". I would like to know what are some characteristics these girls display? Tell me some stories if you ever had an experience with them?
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Women are emotional creatures. As opposed to men who are logical (or so it’s said). Yes, some have personality disorders, and even more create them to have an excuse for their behavior. But men are the same way. All in all, you just need to find a girl thats right for you.
And…so what if they have a personality disorder? If they’re not able to manage it with meds or therapy then why even be around them. People in general who are out of control are no fun.
Dude we’re all like that! We just need guys in our lives right now…why…IDK…but we do…nothing wrong with us…its no disorder…its insecurity…and the need for love…
"Every being is in need for unconditional love of the opposite…[or same] sex"
You can’t. It has to be diagnosed, and its hard to spot, and u as a normal person can not say she has it..
If you cant detect it you deserve to be with them.
Remember… if it smells like cologne, leave it alone.
Girls are generally emotional. If you find lots of girls being emotional, then we (all women) are sick…maybe you gotta stop being such a player and be more sensitive…got that, dude??
It’s all about maturity. Girls who are most mature are that way cuz they were raised that way, and some actually learn it from watching others. Those who lack the maturity are just looking for fun and respect, and will get emotional and fiery like babies if they don’t get what they want. So it varies in age. Too bad the media has suck influence making ppl think life’s gotta be like the movies.
Borderline personality disorder (BPD) is a psychiatric diagnosis in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders (DSM-IV Personality Disorders 301.83[1]) that describes a prolonged disturbance of personality function characterized by depth and variability of moods.[2] The disorder typically involves unusual levels of instability in mood; "black and white" thinking, or "splitting"; chaotic and unstable interpersonal relationships, self-image, identity, and behavior; as well as a disturbance in the individual’s sense of self. In extreme cases, this disturbance in the sense of self can lead to periods of dissociation.[3] These disturbances can have a pervasive negative impact on many or all of the psychosocial facets of life. This includes difficulties maintaining relationships in work, home, and social settings. Attempted suicide and completed suicide are possible outcomes, especially without proper care and effective therapy.[4] Onset of symptoms typically occurs during adolescence or young adulthood. Symptoms may persist for several years, but the majority of symptoms lessen in severity over time.[4] with some individuals fully recovering. The mainstay of treatment is various forms of psychotherapy, although medication and other approaches may also improve symptoms.
As with other mental disorders, the causes of BPD are complex and unknown.[5] One finding is a history of childhood trauma (possibly child sexual abuse),[6] although researchers have suggested diverse possible causes, such as a genetic predisposition, neurobiological factors, environmental factors or brain abnormalities.[5] The prevalence of BPD in the United States has been calculated as 1 to 3 percent of the adult population,[5] with approximately 75% of those diagnosed being female, 25% male.[7] It has been found to account for 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations. Common comorbid (co-occurring) conditions are other mental disorders such as substance abuse, depression and other mood disorders, and other personality disorders. BPD is one of four diagnoses classified as "cluster B" ("dramatic-erratic") personality disorders typified by disturbances in impulse control and emotional dysregulation, the others being narcissistic, histrionic, and antisocial personality disorders.
The term borderline, although it was used in this context as early as the 17th century, was employed by Adolph Stern in 1938 to describe a condition as being on the borderline between neurosis and psychosis. Because the term no longer reflects current thinking, there is an ongoing debate concerning whether this disorder should be renamed.[5] There is related concern that the diagnosis stigmatizes people, usually women, and supports pejorative and discriminatory practices.
Contents
1 History
2 Diagnosis
2.1 DSM-IV-TR criteria
2.2 Comparable diagnoses
2.3 Associated features
2.4 Differential diagnosis
2.5 Comorbidity
3 Prevalence
4 Etiology
4.1 Childhood abuse, neglect or separation
4.2 Other developmental factors
4.3 Genetics
4.4 Neurofunction
5 Treatment
5.1 Psychotherapy
5.1.1 Dialectical behavioral therapy
5.1.2 Schema therapy
5.1.3 Cognitive behavioral therapy
5.1.4 Marital or family therapy
5.1.5 Psychoanalysis
5.1.6 Transference-focused psychotherapy
5.1.7 Cognitive analytic therapy
5.1.8 Mentalization based treatment
5.2 Medication
5.2.1 Antidepressants
5.2.2 Antipsychotics
5.3 Services and recovery
5.3.1 Combining pharmacotherapy and psychotherapy
5.3.2 Difficulties in therapy
5.3.3 Other strategies
6 Controversies
6.1 Gender
6.2 Stigma
6.3 Terminology
7 Sociological and cultural aspects
7.1 Cultural references
8 Footnotes
9 Bibliography
10 See also
11 External links
[edit] History
Since the earliest record of medical history, the coexistence of intense, divergent moods within an individual has been recognized by such writers as Homer, Hippocrates and Aretaeus, the last describing the vacillating presence of impulsive anger, melancholia and mania within a single person. After medieval suppression of the concept, it was revived by Bonet in 1684 who, using the term folie maniaco-mélancolique, noted the erratic and unstable moods with periodic highs and lows that rarely followed a regular course. His observations were followed by those of other writers who noted the same pattern, including writers such as the American psychiatrist C. Hughes in 1884 and J.C. Rosse in 1890, who described "borderline insanity". Kraepelin, in 1921, identified an "excitable personality" that closely parallels the borderline features outlined in the current concept of borderline.[2]
Adolf Stern wrote the first significant psychoanalytic work to use the term "borderline" in 1938, referring to a group of patients with what was thought to be a mild form of schizophrenia, on the borderline between neurosis and psychosis. For the next decade the term was in popular and colloquial
it is characterized by pervasive instability in moods, interpersonal relationships, self-image, and behavior. This instability often disrupts family and work life, long-term planning, and the individual’s sense of self-identity. Originally thought to be at the "borderline" of psychosis, people with BPD suffer from a disorder of emotion regulation. While less well known than schizophrenia or bipolar disorder (manic-depressive illness), BPD is more common, affecting 2 percent of adults, mostly young women.1 There is a high rate of self-injury without suicide intent, as well as a significant rate of suicide attempts and completed suicide in severe cases.2,3 Patients often need extensive mental health services, and account for 20 percent of psychiatric hospitalizations.4 Yet, with help, many improve over time and are eventually able to lead productive lives.
While a person with depression or bipolar disorder typically endures the same mood for weeks, a person with BPD may experience intense bouts of anger, depression, and anxiety that may last only hours, or at most a day.5 These may be associated with episodes of impulsive aggression, self-injury, and drug or alcohol abuse. Distortions in cognition and sense of self can lead to frequent changes in long-term goals, career plans, jobs, friendships, gender identity, and values. Sometimes people with BPD view themselves as fundamentally bad, or unworthy. They may feel unfairly misunderstood or mistreated, bored, empty, and have little idea who they are. Such symptoms are most acute when people with BPD feel isolated and lacking in social support, and may result in frantic efforts to avoid being alone.
People with BPD often have highly unstable patterns of social relationships. While they can develop intense but stormy attachments, their attitudes towards family, friends, and loved ones may suddenly shift from idealization (great admiration and love) to devaluation (intense anger and dislike). Thus, they may form an immediate attachment and idealize the other person, but when a slight separation or conflict occurs, they switch unexpectedly to the other extreme and angrily accuse the other person of not caring for them at all. Even with family members, individuals with BPD are highly sensitive to rejection, reacting with anger and distress to such mild separations as a vacation, a business trip, or a sudden change in plans. These fears of abandonment seem to be related to difficulties feeling emotionally connected to important persons when they are physically absent, leaving the individual with BPD feeling lost and perhaps worthless. Suicide threats and attempts may occur along with anger at perceived abandonment and disappointments.
People with BPD exhibit other impulsive behaviors, such as excessive spending, binge eating and risky sex. BPD often occurs together with other psychiatric problems, particularly bipolar disorder, depression, anxiety disorders, substance abuse, and other personality disorders.
Maybe you’re just not emotional or fiery enough for those girls!
There is a condition called borderline personality disorder, but it’s rare and you can’t simply spot it. I have a couple of friends with BPD and they’re not generally emotional or fiery. In fact, one of them is supercalm and never loses her temper. They do have difficulties with relationships, mainly because of their fear of rejection, but they are lovely sweet people.
I reckon if you date a lot of people you will find that a great many of them are not the sort of people you want to date. I doubt the emotional and firey girls you date have something wrong with them; they’re just not the girls for you.