HOW TO COPE WITH STRESS/ANXIETY?
Tuesday, May 11th, 2010 at
3:00 pm
So I have several things going on in my life right now that are really hard to cope with. I have 3 young children and I’m trying to keep it together for there sake. I am on anxiety medicine but it’s not seeming to work and I dont want to keep trying new medicines. WHAT IS THE EASIEST WAY THAT YOU COPE WITH STRESS/ANXIETY??
By The way the stress/anxiety is not my children I just want to know good techniques people use so I can avoid feeling stressed around my children…
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Okay, i may not have kids, but I do suffer from an anxiety disorder.
First of all, know this much:
ANXIETY MEDICATION DEPRESSES YOU.
it does not work at all and excuse my language but it’s a bitch to get off of medication. Esp paxil.
The best way to deal with stress and anxiety is to get out with friends. Have someone baby sit your kids every now and then. Might I suggest going for a jog with a friend, or going to a gym/yoga class?
Execizing helps like you would not believe.
And take my advice- don’t drink coffee when you first get up. And when you drink coffee do not get like..the largest starbucks drink they make.
Honestly, I find that just hanging out with a friend or talking to them (in person) helps me out the best.
Hope this helped!!
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Alcohol helps me.
Lots of it!
People go through much worse everyday and you’re complaining about having kids, which is by the way your own fault. Deal with it!
Honestly, if you can get a full 8 hours of sleep, eat healthy food, drink lots of water, and get some daily exercise, you’ll feel much better overall on a daily basis.
It varies from person to person. For me, I use physical exertion as a release. I go run or hike. The getting out side helps me out too.
whichone are you taking? I am on zoloft and it’s working great for me - try to change your medicine - nothing else worked for me - but try exercising, yoga relaxes pretty much, breating exercises, bubble baths, playing with your kids, and Massages, go to spa etc.
People go through much worse everyday and you’re complaining about having kids, which is by the way your own fault. Deal with it!
See stress treatments, at ezy build, below, in section 42. A certain level of stress is unavoidable, in modern society, so it is a good idea to develop effective coping methods. Light to moderate daily exercise helps fight stress. For some people, it helps to visualise a quiet, relaxing scene (imagine, as vividly as you can, that you are on a tropical beach, reclining comfortably; you luxuriate, as the the sun warms you, and a gentle breeze caresses your skin lightly, inhaling the tangy, sea scented, salt laden spray from the sparkling, translucent, aqua waves, crashing on the white, coral beach sand, and feeling the hot sand slip through your fingers in one hand, sipping your favorite drink with the other; all the while, the seagulls call, swoop and cavort playfully overhead in a cloudless, azure sky: you feel just like one of them, free to soar and cartwheel, or just glide in the moist, heavy air, and that this moment will last forever … ).
Options: Try: http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/meditat... or http://www.healthjourneys.com/free_audio.asp?f=1
Take 4 Omega 3 fish oil supplements, daily: (certified free of mercury) it is best if consumed with an antioxidant, such as an orange, or grapefruit, or their FRESHLY SQUEEZED juice. If vitamin E is added, it should be certified as being 100% from natural sources, or it may be synthetic: avoid it. The supplement DHEA is thought to counter the stress hormone, Cortisol. Ginseng & Lady’s Slipper are recommended herbal remedies: see section 55, at ezy build, below. Practise daily, one of the relaxation techniques on pages 2, 11, 2c, or 2i; whichever works best for you, but the mindfulness breathing for 15 - 20 mns is ideal, although the progressive muscle relaxation can be learned quickly, and takes only several minutes, if pressed for time. Also see: http://www.mindtools.com/stress/Relaxati... & http://relaxationemporium.com/ & http://www.bbc.co.uk/health/conditions/m... & http://tinyurl.com/29so4u & at http://www.lessons4living.com/ try the audio demonstration. At http://www.amazon.com/ enter: "sounds of the ocean", & "ambient rain sound", & "mountain river sounds" in the searchbar.
Repeat: "I feel calm" and/or "I can handle this." Employ the EFT version for use in public, for which you can reasonably claim that you have a headache, as you massage/tap your temples, but it may be advisable to restrict yourself to subvocalising (saying it to yourself, in your mind, not aloud). Section 53, and pages 2, 2.q and 2.o refer. "Even though I sometimes suffer from stress, I deeply and completely accept myself". A variant of EMDR: Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing therapy, which has been used successfully for those people suffering from Post Traumatic Stress Disorder, insomnia, and anxiety, is shown in section 42, on page i, at http://www.ezy-build.net.nz/~shaneris I have found that the 2 - 3 minutes spent using the EMDR markedly reduces distractions to the relaxation process, and is well worthwhile. You can also multitask, using the gazing technique, as you walk/jog or exercise, by focusing on a distant object, or just focus awareness on how each step feels, noting any thoughts which flash across your mind, without pursuing any particular train of thought, just gently redirect your focus to the task at hand.
For you, or others: A massage (at least neck and shoulders) with jasmine, lavender, juniper, and/or bergamot, or German chamomile essential oils added to the massage oil, and to a warm bath, preferably beforehand, to help make any tension knots and muscles more pliant (they may only want, say, a sandalwood & juniper, or bergamot mix:; check first). I am aware of advice that strong heat, applied to essential oils can damage them, and so I would not use a diffuser. Also consider anise, basil, bay, eucalyptus, peppermint, rose, or thyme. Place some pieces of rock salt in a small vial, then add a few drops of the oil of your choice (the rock salt absorbs the oil and is less risky to carry around than a bottle of oil).
Schedule your activities, try not to have plenty idle time. Do some reading and some physical activity maybe walking or jogging or games.
non drug remedy for stress is always better as it does not have side effect.
Usually when I’m stressed I listen to soothing music. Songs that relate to the anxiety or stress I’m feeling or I listen to upbeat and fast songs and sing along. Music is medicine for the soul. Dancing to music is also another way to cope.A few other things that usually calm my nerves: A warm candle lit bath, keeping a journal, walking and going out with my best friend one night a wk ( I also have childern) getting time to myself atleast one night a wk has helped my stress and anxiety tremendously.
I know you do not want to but try a different med. I have been on 8 different meds in the past year alone and have finally found one to help. so talk to your Dr and tell him everything and even though you don’t want to you need to find a med that works for you.
Are your children hyper? If you are constantly having to yell and lecture, that can take a lot out of a person. If they are hyper, they may have ADHD. For this you could get them meds. My younger brother was the most disruptive kid in his school until he was diagnosed. His psychiatrist gave him medication and now he is perfectly behaved. Otherwise, if your kids are well behaved, that’s a sign that you need more "me time". If you can find them a good babysitter, you should go out and chill with some friends or excercise a few times a week. Running is an incredible way to de-stress! Also, you should do a fun activity with your kids. They will love it and you will feel satisfyed having played with them in a stress-free environment. Good luck!
I have a set of Baoding balls, or Chinese meditation balls, that I spin in my hand to help me center my thoughts. Yes, whenever I get stressed, I play with my balls
Here’s a page with video:
http://www.baodingballs.com/baoding_ball_techniques.html
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